2018 will be the year I ... have it all

It's taken me a while to get to this point, but I realized something earlier this year:

I really can have it all.

I'd be lying if I said I didn't watch too many Real Housewives to count, where season after season they struggle with "having it all." One minute they proclaim proudly to the camera, "I'm proof you really can have it all!" Then two seasons later when their lives come crashing down they say through tears, "I thought I could have it all, but I can't!"

I've always dreamed of having it all. Life would be better if I had it all. Having it all would make me happier. A happy life equals having it all.

But what is having it all? And what does it take to have it all? And what the heck is all anyways??

I'm not married, I don't have any kids, my dating life continues to be a joke. But I'm happier than I've ever been. My friends are getting married and having babies. My family is in a better place than we've been in years. My nieces and nephews continue to light up my entire world.

2017 is the year I had the epiphany that changed my whole mindset.

Having it all means whatever I want it to mean.

I set the definition for all, I don't go by someone else's definition. Your "all" is not my "all," and my "all" is not your "all."

You know what having it all means to me?

• To give love... CHECK

• To be loved... CHECK

• To keep learning... CHECK

• To have a job I enjoy... CHECK

• And whatever else I decide to add to the "all" list.

2018 will be the year I have it all because I will take the time to define what "all" means to me. Then I'll work my butt of to make sure I get it all.

What does "having it all" mean to you?